How can two people who have nothing in common be attracted to each other?

 

"How can two people who have nothing in common be attracted to each other?"

 

This question was asked by Carrie Bradshaw, related to her relationship with Aleksandr Petrovsky. Carrie, a columnist who loves fashions, claimed that she was not really arty. On the contrary, Aleksandr was like an art himself. So, when they have nothing in common, what in fact made them attracted to each other?

 

Carrie met Aleksandr for the first time in episode 12 of season 6, in one art exhibit, where Aleksandr was the artist. Carrie didn't show interest in the 'show'; she even considered it 'something not serious'; the thing that perhaps intrigued Aleksandr as the artist. Carrie never heard of the fame of Aleksandr's name before therefore she didn't feel guilty laughing at the art piece exhibited.

 

Carrie and Aleksandr

To show that the show exhibited in the gallery was serious -- a woman told to be not talking not eating for 16 days, 24 hours a day -- Aleksandr invited Carrie to come to the gallery at 03.00 to prove that the woman was still in the same position: sitting on a chair, doing nothing else but sitting.

 

From this moment, they started to be attracted to each other: Aleksandr who thought Carrie as someone who didn't understand art; and Carrie who thought Aleksandr as someone who didn't have the sense of humor as highly as she did.

 

Later on, Aleksandr never involved Carrie in his art job, even explained to her about what he was doing, like he never got interested in Carrie's job as a columnist although in one scene, she was described to talk about Carrie's column to his artist colleagues, who apparently didn't seem intrigued by Carrie's humor in the writing.

 

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Carrie with her 3 boyfriends in SATC

 

I was really intrigued by Carrie's question "How can two people who have nothing in common get attracted to each other?"

 

Carrie's statement in the following episode "a single gal spends most of her life searching for the perfect male." in fact explained what made Carrie attracted to Aleksandr at the very first place. She was single, waiting for a guy offering her a true love. Aleksandr was 'hot' (this was the way Samantha described him), he was also famous, and had "the whole floor to be his own apartment for himself" a.k.a rich. And he was seeing only one girl at one time. What else was a gal looking for in a guy?

 

What made Aleksandr attracted to Carrie? Perhaps her 'innocence' or naivety in viewing his piece of art was even intriguing, plus he saw Carrie as one lovely girl, as he said when they both had their very late date for the first time.

 

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Referring to my own experience. Hmft … I used to be naïve, I believe, lol. I didn't think I needed to find something in common with the guy I was attracted to back then, even when I was in the same age as Carrie Bradshaw in the serials Sex and the City, around 35 - 38 years old. First, of course, I needed to see something good -- attractive men. A guy didn't have to be gorgeous, lol, as long as I could cope up with, lol. After that to see if he and I could have a nice chat about anything, books, feminism, food, etc. if I found him boring, ya goodbye. :D

 

Recently, I have been making myself busy with biking -- bike traveling to cities around my dwelling place -- so I need at least to find one thing in common with a guy that I will be attracted to: biking. I am not really knowledgeable about bike parts, more to traveling by bike. However, having this one thing in common does not necessarily mean things will go smoothly; I mean I am not always interested in a guy just because this one thing. I need a guy who will understand my being agnostic; even better if the guy is also in the same 'boat' with me: not someone very religious. I also want him to have similar opinions with me in things, let's say politics; to have similar sense of humor; to get the knack of simple technology. And one most important thing: financially established for sure.

 

Hohoho … I am DEMANDING. Eh? Lol.

 

PT56 15.43 28 August 2020