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Monday, May 08, 2006

Abortion


This morning the local newspaper in my hometown reported that a man who pretended to be an obstetrician was arrested by the police. He “helped” to do abortion to some helpless girls who apparently became pregnant outside the wedlock. No matter what, in Indonesia, getting pregnant without getting married first is considered something very shameful. To cover the shame, those girls looked for help to do the abortion. Most of them are about 17-19; the paper said.

The number of girls getting pregnant outside the wedlock has increased sharply recently. I believe this is one result of the globalization; where people easily access any news, information, including habit, tradition, “culture”, etc from any country all over the world. That Indonesia is a religious country, basing anything from religious perspective is only façade culture. The old generation who still sticks to this false impression thinks that sex is something taboo so that they don’t want to talk about this openly with their children. They would rather think that sex is something natural and people will learn about it naturally especially after they get married. They are worried if their children know about sex before a certain age bracket, they will try doing it. They think that by covering about sex, they can “save” their children from that tendency.

Some decades ago, perhaps it worked well to them. However in this globalization era? With its limitless access with internet?

I believe without their parents or teachers’ guidance, those teenagers will get a wrong source. In Islam, the time for teenagers to be considered grown up is very clear; for girls when they get their first period; while for boys when they get their first wet dream. It can be considered as the best time for the parents especially to start telling them about sex openly.

I opine that those girls who get pregnant outside the wedlock don’t get enough sex education from their parents; worse thing, they don’t communicate well with their parents so that they are not open to their parents. While at the same time, with their easy access to the internet, they get to know that their fellow teenagers from the other side of the world have known sex in that teenaged years. FYI, Indonesian people always accuse western countries as free countries where people have sex freely outside the wedlock. Perhaps those teenagers think, “If American teenagers can do it, why can’t we? This is modern era. Having sex can be done before getting married. It’s ok with that.”

Indonesian people who usually consider the west as more modern make those teenagers want to be labeled as modern by doing what the teenagers in the west do, without thinking of the impact to them. When the teenagers in the west do that (read è having sex outside the wedlock), I assume that their parents already talk about sex openly with them; including give them some suggestion how to avoid pregnancy before they are ready to get babies. In Indonesia? Of course it is not like that. By thinking that sex is something taboo, of course the (conventional) parents don’t talk about sex with their teenagers. The result? Well, just like what the news reported this morning. More and more girls get pregnant before getting married. And to avoid the shame, they go to doctors, either the real obstetrician or the fake one, to have the abortion.

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2 comments:

jiwakitamerdeka said...

In the West, the same old stories happen: girls are getting pregnant again and again, willingly or unwillingly. So we cannot blame wholly the traditions we are in. Sexual acts are bound to happen as human grow. So, in Islam there is a way out i.e via lawful marriage. No way, I can give my flesh without marriage. Illegal sexual acts are not permissible as a way to RESPECT girls/women.

jiwakitamerdeka said...

TERKEDU dengan pengguguran haram...
TERKEDU...bila melihat gambar-gambar pengguguran haram yang dihantar oleh seorang kawan melalui e-mail.

TERLALU SEDIH berfikir mengapakah dibunuh bayi yang tidak berdosa itu semata-mata mahu mengelakkan malu.
Punca utama: zina. ITULAH SERONOK SANGAT NAK BENDA TU (iaitu zina), TAPI TIDAK MAHU BERTANGGUNG JAWAB. KE HULU, KE HILIR, PUSING PUSING NAK KE SITU JUGA. Seolah2 pasangan, kebanyakannya dua sejoli, adalah jaguh (hero dan heroin) sewaktu sibuk mendekati zina dan berzina, tapi tiba-tiba menjadi menjadi DAYUS dan PENAKUT menghadapi kenyataan.

Zina terjadi kerana wujud NAFSU SEKS MANUSIA terhadap berlainan jantina. Seolah-olah ADA NAFSU SEKS SUSAH, LANGSUNG TAK ADA PUN SUSAH. Mesti ada hikmah ALLAH mencipta sesuatu. Semua akan BERES KALAU hidup kita BERLANDASKAN IMAN KEPADA ALLAH dan AKHIRAT. ERTINYA BERIMAN & AMALKAN ikut tatasusila ISLAM BUKAN SAHAJA UNTUNG DI AKHIRAT, DI DUNIA PUN UNTUNG...Semua selamat dan maruah wanita dihormati.

NANTI KENA JAWAB, FOR SURE....tentu TERSANGKUT BILA ANAK YANG DI GUGURKAN SECARA HARAM ITU SENDIRI AKAN BERTANYA kerana dosa apakah dia di bunuh? Sila semak terjemahan Quran: ‘Dan apabila anak anak perempuan yang dikuburkan hidup hidup ditanyai, kerana dosa apakah dia di bunuh?’ (Surah At-Takwiir: ayat 7&8).

ITU BELUM LAGI ALLAH YG TANYA...

YA ALLAH…SELAMATKAN KAMI SEMUA DAN SEMUA ZURIAT KAMI
SEHINGGA HARI KIAMAT DARI ZINA, menghampiri zina DAN BERZINA.

Kepada mereka yang telah dan akan MENGGUGURKAN ANAK, ingatlah bayangan dosa akan dibawa sampai bila-bila... Bertaubat dan pilihlah hidup beragama supaya aman dan nyaman.

Kearah Dunia Adil & Sejahtera


Imagine if we can control ourselves

If we can control ourselves, many bad things will not happen menyebabkan semakin lama penghuni penjara semakin berkurang...
If and only if we can control carnal desires, many things will not happen…zina tak akan berlaku, kaum wanita dihormati kerana mereka bukan barangan jualan.
So this life is a test of how well we can control ourselves.
We are just supermen or superwomen physically and mentally, but unfortunately, we are spiritual pigmies…
Something has to be done to our self. Now...

Kearah Dunia Adil & Sejahtera