Why did Big reject Samantha in episode 1?
I believe this is not a new topic to be discussed/written. My naïvete hampered me from thinking too bold, lol. This is triggered one fact: despite the fact that Samantha is very inspiring for me; I am more like Carrie than Samantha who is bold, highly confident, successful. Carrie is not as bold as Samantha, although once Aidan said to Carrie, "you are anything but old-fashioned. Carrie."
One time I read somewhere about Chris Noth's comment on his character Big: "Big is not shown to have many girlfriends. It is different from Carrie who has some (or many?) boyfriends in the serials of Sex and the City. After getting divorced from Samantha, he didn't have any other girlfriend, except sometimes pursuing Carrie."
However, a lot of people see Big a player, just like Samantha. And because Big is a successful entrepeneur, he is quite popular in many business communities, and so is Samantha who is well-known as successful PR. If Big accepts Samantha's flirtatious invitation in episode 1, his business associates will easily find out about it. It can threaten his business.
Big may find Samantha intimidating (with her boldness to invite him to bed) because Big would rather choose to be with a woman who is 'under his control' but at the same time 'easy to be taken into his bed'. After Big and Carrie have their relationship, and Big finds out that Carrie is not 'that easy' to control, he chooses to marry Natasha, a kinda 'classic' woman: young, gorgeous, not that smart (meaning easily to be manipulated), and submissive. Here, we can say that Big belongs to a type of man who is also classic. He views women who are smart, independent and successful (in career + money) as threat.
There are many men who have trait like Big in Indonesia! They don't have guts to face smart, independent and successful women because these woman are not easily manipulated. Isn't there any man who is on the way around? I believe there are but I haven't found them yet in my real life. I am not Samantha. This is why. Lol.
PT56 14.00 03 November 2025
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